Know that you cannot force another to become more self-aware and responsible no more than you can force the bud of a flower into bloom prematurely. If you choose force you do yourself and that person a great disservice by taking away their life lessons. Where there is force there is resistance and where this is resistance there is hurt which seeks expression and expansion. Suppressing this pain so that you can feel whole again and ease the consciousness of others births further resistance ‘to what is’.
Emotions are there to be felt and rightfully expressed as part of the human experience. The mind desires to be anywhere but ‘here’, constantly grasping for approval outside of itself, to feel worthy, to feel valued, to feel loved. It will go to any length to find this validation. Do not make yourself ‘wrong’ for expressing what is deep within your heart.
Where there is force there is resistance, and where this is resistance there is hurt which seeks expression and expansion.
If we sit a moment with our pain not wishing to transform, change, blame or deny it we realise how it serves us in this exact moment. That it is okay to feel shadow emotions such as anger, resentment, jealousy and sadness in a spiritual community which sometimes views these emotions as inappropriate and uncomfortable.
Slowly as we let go of the need to control our healing we begin to realise we are the love we exhaust our energy searching for outside of ourselves. That there is no merit or pleasure in judging, condemning or comparing another’s painful experience, and unique perspective. That acceptance is our friend, everything serves and everyone’s point of view is perfectly valid.
This is why dropping ‘should’ from our vocabulary is a gift of loving-kindness to not only ourselves but others. Whether you are healing from a broken heart, depression, childhood trauma, to be more complete, thinner or simply missed the number 81 bus this morning. Know that you are enough, your feelings matter and that it’s not always rainbows and fairies. Thank you to each and every one of you for infinitely inspiring my own humble journey.
Blooming Lotus Flower
…there is no merit or pleasure in judging, condemning or comparing another’s painful experience, and unique perspective.
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